I have been consciously working on examining my own areas of darkness and embracing them so they can be transmuted and transformed, but it has not been an easy road. When I am peeling back the layers of pain or darkness, I realize that as I consciously clear, I discover new layers underneath that still need healing. This can be frustrating for me, but as tough as it is the rewards and benefits of this type of self-examination and conscious healing has brought me so many benefits, and has enhanced and deepened my own spiritual path and practices. In finding compassion for myself, I find it so much easier to look at others through the lens of compassion and love, and I find it much easier to be present more of the time as I reach deeper and deeper within myself -- clearing all that no longer serves me.
It takes a lot of courage to be able to look at our dark spaces and embrace them, so they can be transformed. Often, it is more challenging to take full responsibility for our lives, our thoughts, and ultimately what we create in our lives resulting from our thoughts and choices, than it is to remain passive or a "victim of our circumstances". But in remaining passive, and not fully owning our emotions and dark spaces, we give away all of our power, and surrender our Divine roles as conscious co-creators with God.
Even when it feels as if we are going backwards, or repeating old patterns, we have an amazing opportunity to become present with our feelings and patterns -- observing them in a new way so we can clear space for new understandings to come into our lives.
Ultimately, all the challenges we face, serve to make us stronger and provide the contrast that is necessary for our own soul growth, so that we all can fully realize the Truth of our own Divinity and experience ourselves as One with God and all of Creation.